Cover of How to Win Friends and Influence People

Book · 2009 · Business & Economics

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Updated For the Next Generation of Leaders

by Dale Carnegie · Recommended by 22 people on 13 podcasts

Why people recommend it

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie is a timeless self-improvement guide focused on communication, empathy, and interpersonal relationship building. Guy Fieri mentioned on The Joe Rogan Experience that the book changed his life when he was young and noted that he subsequently required his own sons to read it. Jonathan Haidt highly recommended the text on The Ezra Klein Show and the Lex Fridman Podcast, praising Carnegie as a brilliant social psychologist whose 1930s insights remain completely relevant for helping people navigate social interactions. On ChooseFI, Brad Barrett and Nick True discussed the profound impact the book had on True during his college years, explaining that it taught him how to understand human behavior, develop genuine empathy, and build lasting friendships. Additionally, Jim Mullane endorsed the work on Modern Wisdom as an enduring classic of personal development literature. Across multiple podcasts, guests emphasized that despite its commercialized title, the book offers foundational lessons in emotional intelligence and practical psychology that continue to benefit readers decades after its initial publication.

Who recommended it

Guy Fieri — 3 mentions
Discussed
“I got that from the Dale Carnegie book. I read Dale Carnegie and you know you have to read it a hundred times or how many times.”
Discussed
“I was just talking about I just did a podcast for the Dale Carnegie Institute and that was a book that changed my life when I was young when I was come open rich. No, what is it? How to win friends and people. Yeah. And it talks really about just human nature about how you treat people and treat”
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“I just did a podcast for the Dale Carnegie Institute and that was a book that changed my life when I was young when I was come open rich. No, what is it? How to win friends and people.”
Jonathan Haidt — 3 mentions
Recommended
“and then the third book is Dale Carnegie How to Win Friends and Influence People it is timeless he he's writing in the 30s and he is such a great social psychologist”
Recommended
“and then the third book is Dale Carnegie How to Win Friends and Influence People it is timeless”
Recommended
“i mean i could say you know go read the calling in american mind i could say go read dale carnegie how to win friends and influence people”
Rebel Wilson — 2 mentions
Discussed
“and I noticed they were all motivational tapes and the one that I clearly remember was one called How to Win Friends and Influence People”
Discussed
“well there were all sorts of things but I remember from that how to win friends and influence people there was something about talking to five new people every day”
Robert Evans — 2 mentions
Discussed
“you've all like most people you may not recognize his name but everyone's heard of this guy's book he's the guy who wrote How to Win Friends and Influence People”
Discussed
“Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People is kind of The Unofficial con artist's Bible because a lot of those tactics he talks about in terms of building relationships and being successful in business are ideal for getting people to trust you”
Brad Barrett — 2 mentions
Discussed
“and it reminds me actually of a quote that you said on a podcast I listen to when you're talking about uh the book How to Win Friends and Influence People”
Recommended
“and he said one of the most influential books in his life was How to Win Friends and Influence People”
Chris Williamson — 2 mentions
Discussed
“number three How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie never read it”
Discussed
“did i read in your new book friends which we're going to talk about another time that the speed that you rub somebody with needs to be slower than one and a half inches per second”
Stephen Dubner — 2 mentions
Discussed
“how to get people how to win friends and influence people can't remember the title of the book”
Discussed
“you've read Dale Carnegie you know that I'm a secret super fan of Dale Carnegie right you're not a secret super fan you're a Super Fan there's nothing secret about that I am a Super Fan in How to Win Friends and Influence People”
Jim Mullane — 2 mentions
Recommended
“back to that how long has this book been available for Dale Carnegie's how to win friends and influence people”
Recommended
“and to add on top of that in terms of easy takeaways the number two book that I always recommend its it is a classic back to that how long has this book been available for Dale Carnegie's how to win friends and influence people”
Sebastian Thrun — 2 mentions
Recommended
“by the way there's a no-fail carnegie 1936 how to make friends and how to influence others has the entire pipe or just read it and you're done”
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“by the way there's a no-fail carnegie 1936 how to make friends and how to influence others has the entire pipe”
Warren Cass — 2 mentions
Discussed
“bearing in mind there are some classic books on this subject out there and I mean for example you know in our pre-chat you were talking about Dale Carnegie how to win friends and influence people probably the oldest and biggest selling book on that topic”
Discussed
“you were talking about Dale Carnegie how to win friends and influence people probably the oldest and biggest selling book on that topic”
Shaan Puri — 1 mention
Discussed
“So that's one of these things where you read a book like how to win friends and influence people and you're like duh that's obvious and it almost becomes a reminder and yet I'm like but how do you tactically make that switch where you say enjoy the relationships not seeking the outcome?”
Oz Pearlman — 1 mention
Discussed
“The skills surrounding everything I do, those skills, it's like How to Win Friends and Influence People. It's a book I've read over and over and over. It's It's I don't want to say it's dated, but it's of a different era.”
Leland Vittert — 1 mention
Discussed
“His best friend pulls him aside and hands him a copy of How to Win Friends and Influence People by Derek Dale Carnegie.”
Vanessa Van Edwards — 1 mention
Discussed
“So, I read the quintessential How to Win Friends and Influence People back in the day, and that's a wonderful book, but it's a book written by an extrovert.”
Mike M. — 1 mention
Discussed
“I wonder if like you know it's in that book How to Win Friends and Influence People laughing at someone's jokes it's pretty hard to think of anything that will endear you more”
Melinda French Gates — 1 mention
Discussed
“You just soaked it in, and they gave us a whole bunch of books to read. I remember reading Dale Carnegie's book on influencing people.”
Joe Rogan — 1 mention
Discussed
“popular theory is the journalist lowell thomas helped spread smith and his preface to dale carnegie's blockbuster self-help book how to win friends and influence people there”
Molly Bloom — 1 mention
Discussed
“There's emotional intelligence, right? Which usually has a focus on the outcome. How to win friends and influence people. Effective presence is more about being in the present with someone”
Nick True — 1 mention
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“I read a book during my freshman year called How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie and that book has probably had some of the biggest impact on my life in terms of just understanding what makes people tick and how to befriend people now”
Angela Duckworth — 1 mention
Discussed
“the reason why I hesitated to come out as a super fan of Dale Carney a lot of people you know leaves a bad taste in about like just the title How to Win Friends and Influence People”
David McRaney — 1 mention
Discussed
“yeah like i think the reason i like to talk about it like this is oh though this book is about how minds change and i was very adamant that that would be the co the cover the title that would be how minds change not how to change people's minds i did not want to write a book that”
Matthew Hussey — 1 mention
Discussed
“how old was i i was about 11 or 12 when i first picked up how to win friends and influence people off my dad's bookshelf”
Mentioned on the show without a named speaker — 7
Discussed
“I don't know how many people out there have read like Dale Carnegie's how to win friends and influence people like this is a book that salesman and and and people used to read all the time”
Discussed
“in the first half of the show Angela references the good life lessons from the world's longest scientific study of Happiness a book by Harvard professor of Psychiatry Robert waldinger and Bryn Mawr professor of psychology Mark Schultz”
Discussed
“and it reminds me actually of a quote that you said on a podcast I listen to when you're talking about uh the book How to Win Friends and Influence People and you said the reason why I changed my life is it helped me to understand that I need to think first about what the other folks are getting”
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“and he said one of the most influential books in his life was How to Win Friends and Influence People I feel like that book title is sounds almost a bit spammy right the Influence People but I think the word influencer kind of has a dirty connotation these days it's not it's not Dale Carnegie's fault no but no”
Discussed
“later Angela refers to Dale Carnegie's 1936 book How to Win Friends and Influence People but mistakenly refers to it as how to make friends and influence people”
Discussed
“The first book is probably not a surprise to you: it's 'How to Win Friends and Influence People.'”
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“The second takeaway from 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' is that encouragement works better than criticism.”

Also mentioned in the same episodes

Other mentions (13: passing, ad reads, own books)
Passing
“How to Win Friends and Influence People by Carnegie.”
Passing
“I mean I don't know how many people out there have read like Dale Carnegie's how to win friends and influence people like this is a book that salesman and and and people used to read all the time and and it's full of the most obvious”
Passing
“popular theory is the journalist lowell thomas helped spread smith and his preface to dale carnegie's blockbuster self-help book how to win friends and influence people”
Passing
“Dale Carnegie was really good at winning friends and influencing people, and Tiger Woods and Jack Nicklaus write books about how to golf.”
Passing
“there's a book by Dale Carnegie who a lot of people know for How to Win Friends and Influence People I believe it was”
Passing
“it's this thing that the uh the win friends and influence people like influencer grind set talk about a lot”
Passing
“but when I think of the standard self-help book like how to get rich get skinny live long whatever how to make friends and influence people there's the classic I know you like that one a lot”
Passing
“I think that's that's what happens when you read How to Win Friends and Influence People while you're uh you know you're at the hospital”
Passing
“I think that's what happens when you read How to Win Friends and Influence People while you're uh you know you're at the hospital”
Passing
“and also say I had no really good excuse because around that same time I did read Dale Carnegie's classic how to win friends and influence people and when I read it I knew it was true”
Passing
“all the classics in terms of personal development David Allen's books on there we've been talking about how to win friends and influence people by Dale common master classes as well as nice”
Passing
“a lot of people go hey like Ross on Friends what's Ross on oh Ross”