The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of ...

“You could listen to The Let Them Theory by me or books from some of your favorite guests on the Mel Robbins podcast like Atomic Habits or The Psychology of Money.”

“Didn't his book sold like 40 million copies or something? What is his book called? Yeah, The Let Them Theory, I think.”

“I wrote about this in the Let Them theory book. I call it go first.”

“Because when you practice this pause, in fact, I write about this a ton in the let them theory book. You need to let them emotions just rise up.”

“And that's why in the let them theory, we wrote extensively about exactly what you need to do in order to get through a breakup.”

“And in the let them theory, we wrote about some recommendations that really help particularly in those first three months. Let me read to you. This is on page uh 286. How every ending is a beautiful beginning.”

“You could listen to the Let Them Theory by me or books from some of your favorite guests on the Mel Robbins podcast like Atomic Habits or The Psychology of Money.”

“In fact, I want to read it to you. It's from the Let Them Theory book. This is from page 297.”

“The let them [music] theory. You go to any page, circle any word.”

“What was the word out of your entire book, The Let Them Theory, did you go to any page, circle any word, what was that word?”

“He was one of the 57 experts, by the way, that I interviewed and I feature his work in the Let Them theory.”

“In fact, I want to read to you from the let them theory because there's a huge section in the book on using let them and let me as tools to manage stress to catch yourself when you're stressed out.”

“Dr. Aditi explains it all in the let them theory in great detail.”

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“And when you embrace this truth in your life, and I unpack it in detail because this is one of the most popular sections of the Let Them Theory book itself, it will change the way that you look at other people.”

“See, when I was writing chapter 7 of the Let Them theory, and chapter 7 is entitled, "When grown-ups throw tantrums, I had to really sit with this uncomfortable truth.”

“And I'm going to read to you from the Let Them Theory book. This is chapter 7, page 111.”

“This is from the chapter how to love difficult people on page 103.”

“They are also medical experts that I quoted extensively in the Let Them Theory book.”

“the let them theory book where she talks all about how to use the let them theory to lower your stress levels.”

“He's also quoted in the Let Them Theory book.”

“And I want to read to you from the Let Them Theory book. But before I crack that book open, can I just take a second and thank you?”

“Let me read to you from page 17 of the let them theory. This is chapter 1. Stop wasting your life on things you can't control.”

“And I want to read to you from page 226 of the Let Them Theory book because I dedicate an entire section of the book to how you use the Let Them theory when somebody is struggling”

“I want to read to you again from the let them theory because I dedicate an entire section in the book to using the theory to stop giving people power”

“And so, let me read to you from the let them theory because learning how to let people think bad thoughts about you, learning to let people not like you”

“Like just focusing coming out of launching the Let Them Theory book and just ending the leg of the tour in 2025, right?”

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“You know, I love that that Marie Claire doesn't say that what she says is that women are not little men, you know, and and that's so true.”

“And I first wrote about this phenomenon in the Let Them Theory book that I co-authored with my 26-year-old daughter, Sawyer.”

“I want to read one more section from the Let Them Theory book about the great scattering to you. This is on page 161.”

“So, it's easy for me to read from the let them theory, but you're the one that's going to have to interrupt this and teach yourself to look at your life differently.”

“And you know, I write about the story in the Let Them Theory book, but I'll just share it very briefly, which is when I first fell in love with my husband, Chris, I was head over heels, right?”

“It was just like It was honestly that was the precursor to the experience of writing the Let Them Theory book with her because we were just like in tension all the time.”

“I write about this in the Let Them Theory book. This is chapter 8.”

“So, on page 252 of the Let Them Theory book, I also address this fallacy that the purpose of dating is to find the one. And I think this is a reason why dating is so hard is that you don't understand the true purpose.”

“I cannot believe how much you're loving The Let Them Theory. I mean, I'm just so blown away by it. my daughter who I wrote this with, Sawyer Robbins.”

“This book is a phenomenon. I mean, it's on track to become one of the most successful non-fiction books of the entire year. 3 million copies sold in two and a half months.”

“Aaron wrote in and said, "I bought two copies of the Let Them Theory. One for my mother and one for me."”

“and my daughter Sawyer who is sitting outside this studio and yeah worked on the let them theory book with me she did not want to come out.”

“I wrote about this in the let them Theory Book I want to read to you from page 115”

“hey it's your friend Mel welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast I am so so excited that you're here first of all it's always such an honor to spend time with you to be together and I wanted to take a moment and acknowledge that if you're a new listener welcome to the Mel Robins podcast family”

“you know I've been talking about the let them Theory Book and so you may have heard this story”

“and interestingly this is an entire section of the let them Theory Book an entire section because there is a fundamental fact about human behavior and it's this people only change when they feel like it”

“and here's how you can tell if it's a deal breaker because I wrote an entire section about all this in the let them theory”

“one of the things in writing the let them Theory book that I realized when it comes to Parenting and families is that when you and your partner decide what your values are and what your Traditions are and what your parenting style and philosophy and approach is it is going to be yours”

“so I want to read a passage to you from page 186 of the let them Theory Book and this is in the section of the book that is all about using the let them Theory to create some of the best friendships of your life”

“the only other topic I've ever seen resonate that immediately and globally was when I first shared the letham theory based on my inbox crashing the DMS and your comments”

“Get a copy of Mel’s new book, The Let Them Theory here.”

“I didn't either until I discovered the let them Theory and starting to learn to catch myself whenever I was considering what somebody else would think or how they might react and worrying about it and learning how to say let them”

“because in the 35 press interviews that I've done so far for the let them Theory Book this is the biggest question everybody's asking”

“so I go up to somebody and I write about this in my new book The let them theory in fact I write about it on page 82 and I want to read to you about this”

“now I'm reading on page 83 of the let them Theory Book right now it took me two years to start posting about my business on social media”

“for me W to publish a book this year I got to have the physical book in my hands I'm holding the let them Theory Book right now that's how I knew I would achieve the goal”

“and this is page 10 of the let them Theory Book Changing my life wasn't glamorous it was grueling”

“this year is going to be different because like me you're going to use the let them Theory this year”

“well there were an awful lot of photos about the process of writing the let them Theory Book I have been head down on that puppy for the entire year and so a huge highlight is that I actually got that thing done”

“another hard part not going to lie to you right in the let them Theory it is a very difficult thing to take on a project that size and it chewed up most of my weekends a lot of late nights”

“because as all this was going on I'm writing the let them Theory and it led to an entire section about how when people in your life are struggling you have to let them”

“the other thing I'm going to continue doing is using the let them theory that was one thing I said last year because I had just discovered it and we had just started writing the book that I'm going to let other people live their lives”

“and the reason why is I'm sitting down with my oldest daughter her name is Sawyer she's 25 years old and we have just spent the last year writing the let them Theory Book together”

“and so in the process of working on the let them Theory Book over the last year and using the let them Theory my daughter and I truly deeply authentically for real erased the distance and really became close in a way that we both really wanted to but never knew how”

“and so I guess where we should start H is we're going to tell you a little bit about our relationship prior to the past year where we've had this experience of working together on this project of writing and then releasing the let them Theory Book”

“but she'll learn in the let them Theory Book”

“and the short of it is um you agreed to step on and help me write the lean theory book I still can't believe it”

“if you're the one that reads the let them Theory Book”

“and what my book does it takes the best of the Behavioral Science research how we make decisions and the best of the relationship science research why we love who we love how relationships work and I combine the two”

“and to put an even bigger Twist on this Sawyer and I at the time were working on researching the section of the let them Theory Book all about love and breakups”

“and so it's so ironic that we were writing this book together and I literally was writing the Heartbreak chapter as I was not only getting broken up with but moving through this”

“and an has this incredible rule of thumb that we also write about in the let them Theory Book and this is not easy”

“and that's what you'll learn in the Le them Theory Book is you cannot control another human being their thoughts their feelings their actions anything”

“yes which is again why this is a huge part of the let them Theory Book”

“because I've just spent the last two years writing a book called The let them Theory”

“I want you to use a technique that I write about extensively in my book The let them Theory”

“I write about this extensively in the let them Theory Book in section six which is all about the fact that you can't change other people”

“in fact I write about this extensively in the let them Theory Book there's an entire chapter chapter 6 page 95”

“and since I wrote about this extensively in the let them Theory Book I want to read to you a little bit about family just so that we're on the same page about why your family can be critical and harsh”

“and that brings me to this tool that we WR about extensively in the Le them Theory I'm going to turn to the page because I want to read to you”

“because if you're committed to creating connection with your family you've got to give up the need to be right for the sake of trying to understand”

“and the let them Theory truly helped me make changes while I still had the time to do so I mean the fact is my dad is 80 years old”

“and I've been on the road uh promoting the let them Theory Book”

“because I have this new book The let them Theory coming out”

“in fact I wrote an entire chapter in the let them Theory about this that's called life isn't fair”

“and I'm going to give you one tool from the let them Theory book ask your husband how do you feel about your attitude about your life”

“because today I can finally tell you for the very first time that my new book The let them theory is available for pre-order right now”

“this is I don't know draft number 57 of the let them Theory Book all the old stuff”

“and what you're going to learn when you read the let them Theory and you dig in to the science and you start to use this simple tool in your life”

“and when you read the let them Theory Book you're going to realize two simple words let them will set you free free from the opinions drama and judgments of other people”

“it would mean everything to me if you would support me and go to let them.com and pre-order the let them Theory book today”

“so for my daughter Sawyer who is managing the launch of my brand new book The let them Theory which comes out in January it's all about eating sour grapes”

“and I'm also going to tell you that my next book comes out it's called the let them Theory on January 1 and you better have that puppy in your hands because there's an entire section about using the let them Theory to create the best friendships of your life”

“I'm working on my next book I'm so excited for you to read it it's called The let them Theory it's coming out in January”

“and you know interestingly I'm working on my next book the title is the let them Theory you're going to freaking love it it comes out in January”

“for me when I think about where I am in October holy smokes I am going to publish my next book The let them Theory yep I'm writing a book about the let them Theory and it's coming out in midt which means 6 months from now I am going to be in the middle of a massive book launch”

“this massive book launch for the let them Theory which is coming out in mid-september”

“another thing that I'm going to start doing you're going to love this I'm going to start writing my next book which is the let them Theory”