Episode · Huberman Lab · 2025-04-07

Andrew Huberman & Lori Gottlieb: books mentioned on Huberman Lab

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My guest is Lori Gottlieb, MFT, a psychotherapist and bestselling author who specializes in helping people build strong relationships by first understanding themselves and the stories they’ve internalized about themselves and others.

Andrew Huberman recommended The Denial of Death by Ernest Becker and High Fidelity by Nick Hornby, and discussed 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life by Bill Eddy and The Creative Act by Rick Rubin. Lori Gottlieb discussed The Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz.

Books mentioned, in the order they came up

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  1. The Denial of Death

    Ernest Becker · at 39:01

    The Denial of Death by Ernest Becker is a Pulitzer Prize-winning psychological study arguing that human civilization, ambition, and cultural creations are ultimately driven by an underlying terror of our own mortality.

    Recommended
    “I happen to be reading it's a hard book a genuinely difficult book but I'm really enjoying it um I'm reading Erns Becker's the denial of death highly recommend it to everyone a Pulitzer after all you don't need my endorsement”
    Where to get it
  2. High Fidelity

    Nick Hornby · at 2:12:32

    High Fidelity by Nick Hornby is a 1995 breakup novel that follows an obsessive record store owner reflecting on his past relationships through the lens of his favorite music and top-five lists.

    Recommended
    “There's a great line in that movie High Fidelity based on the Nick Hornby novel, which I also highly recommend where he's like, you know, people tell me that we should listen to our gut.”
    Where to get it
  3. The Paradox of Choice

    Barry Schwartz · at 2:30:14 · mentioned 2 times

    The Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz examines how an overabundance of options in modern life leads to anxiety, decision fatigue, and reduced satisfaction, categorizing people as either maximizers or satisficers.

    Discussed
    “Well, I think what the apps do is there's a phenomenon that Barry Schwarz talks about in his book, The Paradox of Choice.”
    Where to get it
  4. 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life

    Bill Eddy · at 2:51:15

    5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life by Bill Eddy is a practical guide to identifying and handling high-conflict personalities, toxic relationships, and difficult individuals.

    Discussed
    “Bill Eddie was on this podcast. He's a therapist and lawyer and he wrote the book uh I think it was like five types of people that will ruin your life.”
    Where to get it
  5. The Creative Act

    Rick Rubin · at 2:55:46

    The Creative Act: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin is a widely praised guide that explores the nature of creativity as an ongoing practice and mindset accessible to everyone.

    Discussed
    “Rick Rubin talked a little bit about this in his book the creative act like we need to be on the front end of the of the vehicle experiencing space and time”
    Where to get it
Other mentions in this episode (4) — ad reads, self-promotion and passing references, never counted
Plugged Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
“so the workbook came about because um, I wrote this book called Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and it's the stories of it's my story going to therapy and then it's the story of these four other patients that I had”
Plugged Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
“So, the workbook came about because um, I wrote this book called Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and it's the stories of it's my story going to therapy and then it's the story of these four other patients that I had and um, when I working with them and um, and people said, "Wow, there was so much that”
Plugged Protocols
“For those of you that haven't heard, I have a new book coming out. It's my very first book. It's entitled Protocols, an operating manual for the human body.”
Plugged Protocols
“It's entitled Protocols, an operating manual for the human body. This is a book that I've been working on for more than 5 years, and that's based on more than 30 years of research and experience.”