Episode · Huberman Lab · 2025-04-07
Books mentioned on How to Find & Be a Great Romantic Partner | Lori Gottlieb
My guest is Lori Gottlieb, MFT, a psychotherapist and bestselling author who specializes in helping people build strong relationships by first understanding themselves and the stories they’ve internalized about themselves and others.
Books mentioned, in the order they came up
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The Denial of Death
Ernest Becker's Pulitzer Prize-winning psychological study argues that human civilization, culture, and motivation are fundamentally driven by an underlying terror of mortality.
Recommended“I happen to be reading it's a hard book a genuinely difficult book but I'm really enjoying it um I'm reading Erns Becker's the denial of death highly recommend it to everyone a Pulitzer after all you don't need my endorsement”
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High Fidelity
High Fidelity by Nick Hornby is a 1995 breakup novel that follows an obsessive record store owner reflecting on his past relationships through the lens of his favorite music and top-five lists.
Recommended“There's a great line in that movie High Fidelity based on the Nick Hornby novel, which I also highly recommend where he's like, you know, people tell me that we should listen to our gut.”
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The Paradox of Choice
The Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz is a compelling psychological exploration of how an abundance of modern options can lead to anxiety, decision fatigue, and chronic dissatisfaction.
Discussed“Well, I think what the apps do is there's a phenomenon that Barry Schwarz talks about in his book, The Paradox of Choice.”
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5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
Bill Eddy's 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life provides practical strategies for identifying and managing high-conflict personalities who wreak havoc in personal and professional relationships.
Discussed“Bill Eddie was on this podcast. He's a therapist and lawyer and he wrote the book uh I think it was like five types of people that will ruin your life.”
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The Creative Act
The Creative Act: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin is a widely discussed book that reframes creativity not as a rare genetic ability, but as a fundamental way of engaging with the world.
Discussed“Rick Rubin talked a little bit about this in his book the creative act like we need to be on the front end of the of the vehicle experiencing space and time”
Other mentions in this episode (4) — ad reads, self-promotion and passing references, never counted
“so the workbook came about because um, I wrote this book called Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and it's the stories of it's my story going to therapy and then it's the story of these four other patients that I had”
“So, the workbook came about because um, I wrote this book called Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and it's the stories of it's my story going to therapy and then it's the story of these four other patients that I had and um, when I working with them and um, and people said, "Wow, there was so much that”
“For those of you that haven't heard, I have a new book coming out. It's my very first book. It's entitled Protocols, an operating manual for the human body.”
“It's entitled Protocols, an operating manual for the human body. This is a book that I've been working on for more than 5 years, and that's based on more than 30 years of research and experience.”