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Lori Gottlieb's books and book recommendations
Across 4 podcasts. Every show Lori Gottlieb appears on, in one place — not just one.
Lori Gottlieb is an American writer and psychotherapist. She is the author of the New York Times bestsellers, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. She also writes the weekly “Dear Therapist” advice column for The Atlantic and is the co-host of the iHeart Radio podcast "Dear Therapists." Her TED Talk was one of the most-watched talks of 2019. On various podcasts, Lori Gottlieb discussed her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, explaining the meaning behind the title, detailing the structure of following four different patients alongside her own story as a patient, and using stories from the text to illustrate concepts like forced forgiveness, repeating relationship patterns, and the limits of insight without behavioral change. Additionally, she referenced Barry Schwartz's book The Paradox of Choice to explain how dating apps can make people less happy by offering too many options, and to describe the behavior of maximizers.
Books by Lori Gottlieb
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Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
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Stick Figure
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Marry Him
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Inside the cult of Kibu
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I Love You, Nice to Meet You
Books recommended by Lori Gottlieb
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Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb is a candid memoir by a psychotherapist who takes readers inside her own therapy sessions while simultaneously treating her diverse roster of patients.
Discussed“i always say like there's a woman in the book she wants her adult children to forgive her for what she had done their estranged from her”
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The Paradox of Choice
The Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz examines how an abundance of modern options can lead to anxiety, decision fatigue, and diminished personal satisfaction.
Discussed“Well, I think what the apps do is there's a phenomenon that Barry Schwarz talks about in his book, The Paradox of Choice.”
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Maharishi Mahesh Yogi on the Bhagavad-Gita
Maharishi Mahesh Yogi on the Bhagavad-Gita by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi provides a commentary and translation of the ancient spiritual text, offering insights into Eastern philosophy and meditation.
Discussed“and in the bhagavad-gita the book from india it's called um the four austerities of speech”
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Other mentions (17: passing, ad reads, own books)
“and it's so interesting, you know, whether whether it's like, you know, in in maybe you should talk to someone in my book, um, I follow four of my patients, but I'm the fifth patient in the book and I'm going to my therapist and I do the same thing.”
“so the workbook came about because um, I wrote this book called Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and it's the stories of it's my story going to therapy and then it's the story of these four other patients that I had”
“So, the workbook came about because um, I wrote this book called Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and it's the stories of it's my story going to therapy and then it's the story of these four other patients that I had and um, when I working with them and um, and people said, "Wow, there was so much that”
“So, in in my book Marry Him, I I wrote a whole book about this because I was looking at how do we date today? And what are the expectations that we have? And, you know, the the publisher called it Marry Him, The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough.”
“So it's interesting because there's a study in Marry Him where it was a longitudinal study, and it followed people from the time that they met their partner, like that first date, all the way through.”
“I mean, I think that when you when when you look at the surveys in Marry Him, women do tend to be maximizers more than men.”
“But, also I I write about in Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, one of the patients that I write about is this young woman uh who I call Charlotte in the book. And Charlotte is somebody who is in her 20s”
“And And so, this is why I talk about it so much in Maybe You Should Talk to Someone because it's not just that you lost the present with that person. It's that you lost the future that you had created in your mind.”
“There are so many things that I would I would like to do but I think that if you read maybe you should talk to someone you'll see that what I did was I made sure that I'm already doing the things that I want to do now instead of putting them off for later.”
“I talk in the book, maybe you should talk to someone, about the stages of change, and you can see them happen.”
“you know I talked about that tension in the book between wanting your therapist to be a human being who has life experience”
“and I that was a big message of the book was you know you see the people in the book as they struggle”
“I talk in the book about the difference between idiot compassion and wise compassion”
“and that's why I wanted to include my own story in the book because you can see my evolution”
“and so I thought right hence the title of the book and I thought great crisis management”
“and in fact when this book came out maybe you should talk to someone um she was the first person to say to me I read your book”
“both things happened this is the experience of each person so they're parallel stories that happened”