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Book · 2018 · Philosophy

The Courage to Be Disliked

The life changing multi-million copy global bestseller

by Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga · Brought up by 10 people on 7 podcasts

The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga has been mentioned in 18 episodes across 7 podcasts (7 episodes recommend it and 11 episodes discuss it), through . Most frequently brought up by Jay Shetty (2 episodes), Andrew Huberman (1 episode) and Derek Sivers (1 episode) on The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett (7 episodes), Modern Wisdom (3 episodes) and My First Million (3 episodes).

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18
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10
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You're not living your life. You're living your fear of other people's judgment, and it has cost you everything authentic about you.
Jay Shetty · On Purpose with Jay Shetty · Apr 2026

Questions about The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

Who recommends The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga on podcasts?

Jay Shetty (2 episodes), Andrew Huberman (1 episode), Derek Sivers (1 episode), Mike Maples (1 episode) and Robert Lustig (1 episode) have recommended The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga on podcasts. In all, 10 people brought it up across 7 podcasts (5 people recommended it).

Which podcasts mention The Courage to Be Disliked the most?

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett (7 episodes), Modern Wisdom (3 episodes), My First Million (3 episodes), On Purpose with Jay Shetty (2 episodes) and a16z Podcast (1 episode), among 7 podcasts in all.

Is The Courage to Be Disliked recommended, or only discussed?

The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga was recommended in 7 episodes and discussed without a recommendation in 11 episodes, as of 2026-07-10.

What do people say about The Courage to Be Disliked?

Jay Shetty on On Purpose with Jay Shetty (2026-04-24): "You're not living your life. You're living your fear of other people's judgment, and it has cost you everything authentic about you."

When was The Courage to Be Disliked last mentioned on a podcast?

The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga was last discussed on My First Million by Shaan Puri on 2026-07-10.

What they say about it

Grouped from 18 episodes
  • Read it over Christmas
    3
  • Highly recommends the book“I highly recommend it to everybody”
    2

The best things said about it

5 of 21 · every mention
Recommended
The book is called The Courage to Be Disliked and I highly recommend it to everybody.
Andrew Huberman Huberman Lab · Dec 2024
Recommended
I heard this idea in a book called The Courage to Be Disliked which was also really probably one of the best things I've ever read.
Derek Sivers Modern Wisdom · Mar 2020
Discussed
It changed my view on this quite profoundly and in an important way because it helped me to understand.
Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett · Apr 2025
Discussed
It basically says that what happened the first chapter in it anyway says that what happened to us in our past doesn't determine our future.
Steven Bartlett The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett · Jan 2025
Discussed
George got me a book a few years ago called The Courage to Be Disliked and it's basically a summary written by Parable about Adler.
On the show Modern Wisdom · Dec 2024

Where and when it comes up

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Podcast episodes that discussed The Courage to Be Disliked, by year. One episode counts once, however often the book came up.

How it comes up

Recommended means the speaker tells listeners to read it.

Episodes, each counted once, by the strongest way it came up.

Most episodes, by podcast

7 shows

10 people who brought it up

Most recommendations first

Why people recommend it

The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga is a popular philosophical self-help book that introduces Adlerian psychology to help readers overcome the paralyzing fear of other people's judgment and live more authentically. The book has received widespread praise across a variety of prominent podcasts. Jay Shetty recommended it as a life-changing read, explaining that it helps individuals stop living in fear of external judgment and reclaim their true identity. Andrew Huberman heavily endorsed the book on Huberman Lab, describing it as a practical, highly recommended guide rooted in Adlerian psychology that he suggests to everyone. Similarly, Derek Sivers cited the book as one of the best things he had ever read, noting that it profoundly shaped his understanding of why people hesitate to change their lives. Robert Lustig mentioned the title when reflecting on what advice he would give to his younger self regarding the fear of social disapproval, while Mike Maples praised the work for its insightful Japanese authorship and psychological framework. An episode of the a16z Podcast also featured a recommendation of the book, with the host highlighting it as essential reading for startup founders. Across all these discussions, speakers emphasized that the core message of the book is vital for anyone struggling with imposter syndrome, ambition, or the simple courage needed to walk into a room and be comfortable with who they are.

Every mention

21 quotes from 18 episodes · 2 passing or ad reads below
Jay Shetty Book number four is The Courage to Be Disliked. Here's the lesson. You're not living your life. You're livi… 2
Recommended
“Book number four is The Courage to Be Disliked. Here's the lesson. You're not living your life. You're living your fear of other people's judgment, and it has cost you everything authentic about you.”
Recommended
“and i think it's really scary to go into a room and have the uh there's a brilliant book i read recently called the courage to be disliked okay and i was like that's really what you need is that we all need the courage to be able to walk into a room and be okay with that this person”
Andrew Huberman um the book is called the courage to be disliked and I highly recommend it to everybody 1
Recommended
“um the book is called the courage to be disliked and I highly recommend it to everybody”
Recommended
“um the book is called the courage to be disliked and I highly recommend it to everybody it was actually written by Japanese author”
Derek Sivers I really like this I heard this idea in a book called um the courage to be disliked which was also really p… 1
Recommended
“I really like this I heard this idea in a book called um the courage to be disliked which was also really probably one of the best things I've ever read”
Mike Maples it's called the courage to be disliked by a couple of japanese authors i think it's it's amazing 1
Recommended
“it's called the courage to be disliked by a couple of japanese authors i think it's it's amazing”
Robert Lustig there's a book called the courage of being disliked it's courageous to be disliked I was afraid of being di… 1
Recommended
“there's a book called the courage of being disliked it's courageous to be disliked I was afraid of being disliked”
Steven Bartlett And I was reading that book, The Courage to be Disliked over Christmas. 6
Discussed
“And I was reading that book, The Courage to be Disliked over Christmas.”
Discussed
“I was reading this book about I think it was called the courage to be disliked”
Discussed
“I was reading this book about I think it was called the courage to be disliked and it was just developing my thinking on just trying to be a bit more sort of radically can give more radical cander to situations”
Discussed
“I was reading I think it was the book the courage to be disliked and it was talking in one of the sections about how some people would like they prefer to live in the like Realm of possibility”
Discussed
“and I was reading something over Christmas which is really friend of mine and I think it's part of why I'm so interested in this subject it was called the courage to be disliked and in the opening chapter of the book it confronts this”
Discussed
“I was reading this book called the courage to be disliked I don't know if you've read that book no but it basically says that what happened the first chapter in it anyway says that what happened to us in our past doesn't determine our future”
Discussed
“I was reading um reading a book over the Christmas break I think it was the courage to be disliked and it talks about the possibility Gap”
Chris Williamson have you looked at the courage to be disliked or any adarerian stuff? 1
Discussed
“have you looked at the courage to be disliked or any adarerian stuff?”
Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett And I was reading that book, The Courage to be Disliked over Christmas. And it kind of it changed my view o… 1
Discussed
“And I was reading that book, The Courage to be Disliked over Christmas. And it kind of it changed my view on this quite profoundly and in an important way because it helped me to understand. And I think it basically says that what happens to us doesn't create who we are. We use what happened to us and we”
Sam Parr have you read the book um the C uh the courage to be disliked uhhuh 1
Discussed
“have you read the book um the C uh the courage to be disliked uhhuh”
Shaan Puri And there was a great tweet that I love by this guy yesterday. He has some company called like Tiny Co. or… 1
Discussed
“And there was a great tweet that I love by this guy yesterday. He has some company called like Tiny Co. or something. Yeah, Andrew Wilkinson. That's our that's our good friend. I loved his tweet and he referenced the courage to be disliked and he said he said said it was a huge turning point for him when he”
Mentioned on the show without a named speaker3
Discussed
“And in January, I found this book called The Courage to Be Disliked. And it's one of these books where you see the cover and you just instantly kind of know.”
Recommended
“and uh you know the courage to be disliked. It's a good book. Courage to be disliked.”
Discussed
“So George got me a book a few years ago called The Courage to Be Disliked and it's basically a summary written by Parable about Adler …”
Other mentions (2: passing, ad reads, own books)
Passing
“the power of low self-esteem you know in the courage to be disliked the subtle art like it's kind of in that that sort of oxymoron kind of way”
Passing
“the courage to be disliked by some Japanese author whose name I'm going to absolutely Butcher and I haven't read but I've heard is really great”

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