Why people recommend it
The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga outlines Adlerian psychology principles to help readers overcome self-doubt, societal pressures, and the need for external validation. Derek Sivers recommended the book on Modern Wisdom, citing a core concept from its pages as one of the best and most impactful ideas he had ever encountered regarding personal change. On The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett, host Steven Bartlett and guest Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett discussed reading the book over the Christmas holiday, noting how the text profoundly transformed their perspectives on identity, personal responsibility, and how past events do not dictate who people become. Steven Bartlett revisited the book on a later episode to explain how its philosophies helped refine his approach to practicing radical candor and learning how to say no. Additionally, Sam Parr brought up the book during an appearance on The Daily Stoic, asking host Ryan Holiday if he had read it and discussing its broader philosophical takeaways. Across these podcasts, the book was highlighted as a transformative guide for personal growth, authentic communication, and breaking free from the opinions of others.
Who recommended it
- Steven Bartlett Discussed
- Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett Discussed
- Sam Parr Discussed
- Derek Sivers Recommended
Steven Bartlett — 5 mentions
“And I was reading that book, The Courage to be Disliked over Christmas.”
“I was reading this book about I think it was called the courage to be disliked”
“I was reading this book about I think it was called the courage to be disliked and it was just developing my thinking on just trying to be a bit more sort of radically can give more radical cander to situations”
“I was reading I think it was the book the courage to be disliked and it was talking in one of the sections about how some people would like they prefer to live in the like Realm of possibility”
“and I was reading something over Christmas which is really friend of mine and I think it's part of why I'm so interested in this subject it was called the courage to be disliked and in the opening chapter of the book it confronts this”
Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett — 1 mention
“And I was reading that book, The Courage to be Disliked over Christmas. And it kind of it changed my view on this quite profoundly and in an important way because it helped me to understand. And I think it basically says that what happens to us doesn't create who we are. We use what happened to us and we”
Sam Parr — 1 mention
“have you read the book um the C uh the courage to be disliked uhhuh”
Derek Sivers — 1 mention
“I really like this I heard this idea in a book called um the courage to be disliked which was also really probably one of the best things I've ever read”
Also mentioned in the same episodes
- Ametora
- Becoming Bulletproof
- Frames Of Mind
- How Emotions Are Made
- Mastery
- Mistakes Were Made (but Not by Me)
Other mentions (1: passing, ad reads, own books)
“the power of low self-esteem you know in the courage to be disliked the subtle art like it's kind of in that that sort of oxymoron kind of way”