Book · 2024 · Social Science
Of Boys and Men
Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do about It
#210 of 16,684 books, ranked by how many different people bring it up on podcasts
- mentions
- 37
- people
- 13
- podcasts
- 12
- episodes
- 28
- recommendations
- 12
It's probably the most important read of the last year for me.
What they say about it
- Short and easy read“very short super short read”4

- Why the modern male is struggling“why the modern male is struggling”3

The best things said about it
Last year I interviewed Richard Reeves about his book Of Boys and Men about what has happened to men in America, why they've fallen so far behind, and what we should think about it, what we can do about it.
Ezra Klein The Ezra Klein Show · Aug 2024 Richard Reeves who wrote a book called of boys and men he's a policy wonk type guy from Washington DC but wrote a phenomenal book it's very short you you'd really enjoy it it's called of boys and men.
Chris Williamson Modern Wisdom · Feb 2023 And I tell you that you've got to solve the issues you talk about in this book, Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do About It.
Yeah one of the interesting stats I learned from Richard Reeves last year with his book of boys and men was that seven times more males than females dropped out of college during covet and you know you've got this massive Retreat this huge imbalance.
Chris Williamson Modern Wisdom · May 2023 He points out that you know boys and men used to dominate the economy and society in many ways.
Jonathan Haidt The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast · Jun 2025 Where and when it comes up
Mentions per year
How it comes up
13 people who brought it up
Chris Williamson12 mentions · 5 recs
Ryan Holiday3 mentions · 3 recs- Dr John Delony1 mention · 1 rec
- Paul Brunson1 mention · 1 rec
Ezra Klein5 mentions- Brad Wilcox2 mentions
Jonathan Haidt2 mentions- Steven Bartlett2 mentions
Tyler Cowen2 mentions- Joyce Benenson1 mention
- Leonard Sax1 mention
Megyn Kelly1 mention
Why people recommend it
Of Boys and Men by Richard Reeves is an insightful sociological examination of the modern challenges, educational struggles, and structural disadvantages currently facing boys and men. Ryan Holiday recommended the book on The Book Review and The Daily Stoic, describing it as a vital parenting book for understanding the male crisis and encouraging listeners to pick up a copy. Chris Williamson discussed the book twice on Modern Wisdom, praising its concise length of around 150 to 200 pages and highlighting its exploration of the systemic issues affecting men and boys. Ezra Klein reviewed the book positively on The Ezra Klein Show, noting its pragmatic proposals for addressing male struggles, such as encouraging more men to enter nursing and teaching professions. Dr. John Delony recommended the text on The Dr. John Delony Show, calling it one of the most important reads of the past year. Paul Brunson referenced Reeves's work on The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett to discuss alarming trends in male unemployment and educational attainment. Across these podcast episodes, guests and hosts consistently praised the book for bringing nuance and data-backed solutions to a critical cultural conversation surrounding gender roles, educational disparities, and the evolving social landscape for modern males.
Every mention
Chris Williamson another lesson one of my favorite ones this was from Richard Reeves great author wrote the book of boys and… 12
“Yeah, he wrote a book called Boys and Men.”
“Do you know Richard Reeves? He does the American Institute for Boys and Men policy. I have heard of it. I don't Yeah, he wrote of boys and men.”
“I had a conversation with Richard rebs sat here um Richard oh my gosh yes of boys and men yeah so he's great American Institute of boys and men”
“another lesson one of my favorite ones this was from Richard Reeves great author wrote the book of boys and men and came back on the show for the second time this year”
“yeah one of the interesting stats I learned from Richard Reeves last year with his book of boys and men was that seven times more males than females dropped out of college during covet and you know you've got this massive Retreat this huge imbalance”
“so first one um Richard Reeves book of boys and men were you familiar with that did you get to read that last year I don't think I I've read that you would it's very short super short read only about 150 200 pages”
“Richard Reeves who wrote a book called of boys and men he's a policy wonk type guy from Washington DC but wrote a phenomenal book it's very short you you'd really enjoy it it's called of boys and men”
“did you read Richard Reeves of boys and men which came out last year I've heard of it but I have not read it short book easy read highly recommended”
“this is in Richard Reeves book of boys and men which came out this year which it sounds like you're familiar with”
“I know that you spoke to Richard Reeves a little while ago yeah and uh Richard was recently on the show and I absolutely adored his approach structural problems for of boys and men”
“so I had Richard Reeves on the show recently of boys and men brand new book which is out and it's really interesting”
“disaffected only men that feel like um Society kind of doesn't want to talk to them anymore because they're toxic or they're horrible or they're abusers or they're rapists or you know it's an interesting blend of cultural and structural problems of this guy in the show called Richard Reeves he's written a book called of boys and men and”
Ryan Holiday Uh I thought some parenting books generally that I thought people would love if you were struck by The Road… 3
“Uh I thought some parenting books generally that I thought people would love if you were struck by The Road as a kind of a a parenting book, Of Boys and Men by Richard Reeves about the sort of male uh crisis...”
“i really liked uh my guest today's amazing book of boys and men uh why the modern male is struggling why it matters and what to do about it by richard reeves he also wrote a great book called dream hoarders”
“uh so i'll leave you this wonderful episode and check out of boys and why the modern male is struggling and why it matters and what you can do about it at the painted porch or anywhere books are sold”
Dr John Delony there's a great book um last name is Reeves re VES and it's called of boys and men and it's probably the mo… 1
“there's a great book um last name is Reeves re VES and it's called of boys and men and it's probably the most important read of the last year for me”
Paul Brunson I know Richard Reeves Âtalks about this quite a bit phenomenal book of boys and men where you can see Âju… 1
“I know Richard Reeves Âtalks about this quite a bit phenomenal book of boys and men where you can see Âjust the levels of unemployment”
Ezra Klein last year I interviewed Richard Reeves about his book of boys and men about what has happened to men in Ame… 5
“last year I interviewed Richard Reeves about his book of boys and men about what has happened to men in America why they've fallen so far behind and what we should think about it what we can do about it”
“and this is a point you make in the book which I think is a little counterintuitive because there's a way of coding this conversation as an almost backlashing conversation”
“that's the argument of Richard Reeves new book of boys and men”
“so I want to have reads on the show to take a closer look at these numbers”
“and something your book gets at very clearly is that this is very much an intersectional argument”
Brad Wilcox I just actually wrote a piece on Richard Reeves, you know, has written this great book actually of of boys… 2
“I just actually wrote a piece on Richard Reeves, you know, has written this great book actually of of boys and men here. And the one I think big problem I had with the book is he kind of argues at the end that we've got to figure out a new way to do fatherhood apart from marriage.”
“I just actually wrote a piece on Richard Reeves, you know, has written this great book actually of of boys and men here.”
Jonathan Haidt That is as Richard Reeves has shown, he wrote the book of Boys and Men. 2
“That is as Richard Reeves has shown, he wrote the book of Boys and Men.”
“Well, so the boy's story is different from the girl story and it's a story of checking out of the real world and I draw from this in part on Richard Reeves who's a wonderful book of boys and men. He points out that you know boys and men used to dominate the economy and society in many ways.”
Steven Bartlett and I've heard in your work the work that was in your book I think on page 45 you say that there is a male… 2
“and I've heard in your work the work that was in your book I think on page 45 you say that there is a male friendship recession”
“and I tell you that you've got to solve the issues you talk about in this book of boys and men why the modern male is struggling why it matters and what to do about it”
Tyler Cowen so let's start with Ursula Le Guin the dispossessed the other books will be Jonathan Swift Gulliver's Trave… 2
“so let's start with Ursula Le Guin the dispossessed the other books will be Jonathan Swift Gulliver's Travels and Richard V Reeves of boys and men”
“our final book Richard V Reeves of boys and men you should do you should do an overview of what this book is about”
Joyce Benenson This is in Richard Reeves book of boys and men which came out this year which it sounds like you're familia… 1
“This is in Richard Reeves book of boys and men which came out this year which it sounds like you're familiar with”
Leonard Sax Wrote the book of Boys and Men. 1
“Wrote the book of Boys and Men.”
Megyn Kelly I think I think that that's a subtitle of boys and men boys and men 1
“I think I think that that's a subtitle of boys and men boys and men”
Steve Levitt so your book of boys and men was chosen by President Obama to be on his summer reading list always was that… 1
“so your book of boys and men was chosen by President Obama to be on his summer reading list always was that Lake well the honest answer is I was thought where were you last last year President Obama um because the book came out in 2022 but it made it to his list in 2024”
Mentioned on the show without a named speaker3
“so I'm paring Richard Reeves great work of boys to men there's a lot of reasons”
“like listen to Richard Reeves now who has written I think a very good book on the problems men are facing and and he's saying you know we need to get more male nurses we need to get more male teachers”
“did you read Richard Reeves of boys and men which came out last year I've heard of it but I have not read it short book easy read highly recommended very pertinent to what you do”
Also mentioned in the same episodes
Other mentions (10: passing, ad reads, own books)
“Richard Reeves you have books out don't you yeah of boys and men”
“when I was writing this section on these differences in developmental trajectories of boys and girls one of my most Progressive and feminist reviewers of the book she wrote”
“His most recent book is of boys and men, why the modern male is struggling, why it matters, and what to do about it.”
“that's the argument of Richard Reeves new book of boys and men or maybe I shouldn't say it's the argument”
“would I have written the book if I'd had three daughters or have written a different book as opposed to having three sons”
“and Richard Reeves your book is of boys and men thank you very much”
“Richard you wrote a book called of boys and men why the modern male is struggling and why it matters and what to do about it of all the things you could have done why”
“and this is in some ways the book The the book underneath that book which is my own journey and my own struggles with my own sense of what does it mean to be a man what does masculinity mean in a relationship and a society of profound moral equality between men and women”
“and Richard Reeves your book is of boys and men”
“and and it was just like being and actually there was this I talk about this in my book there was an incident that my kids High School uh that got International attention as an expression of toxic masculinity which really woke me up to the way this term has been sort of thrown around and used indiscriminately”





