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Terry Real's book recommendations
Across 3 podcasts. Every show Terry Real appears on, in one place — not just one.
Terrence "Terry" Real is a family therapist. He has authored several books on topics of male depression and marriage, and founded the Relational Life Institute. On podcasts, Terry Real has recommended and discussed several influential books spanning psychology, relationships, and human behavior. When appearing on Huberman Lab, he discussed Robert Bly's book "Iron John," mentioning it while talking about the men's movement and drumming in the woods. During his appearance on The Tim Ferriss Show, Real recommended Peter Attia and Bill Gifford's book "Outlive," noting in particular that its final chapter discusses Attia's work with Real. On the same podcast, he brought up James Gilligan's book "Violence," describing himself as a big fan and noting it served as a major inspiration for understanding the study and dynamics of violence. Additionally, while appearing on The Dr. John Delony Show, Real discussed his own book, "Trust Accounting for Real Property," explaining that the work serves as a critique of what he terms the toxic culture of individualism. Across these different media appearances, Real frequently highlights texts that explore psychological resilience, human conflict, and the interpersonal dynamics that shape personal well-being, sharing these recommendations to illuminate his therapeutic approaches.
Books recommended by Terry Real
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Iron John
Iron John by Robert Bly is a seminal work within the mythopoetic men's movement that retells traditional folklore to explore masculinity, father-child relationships, and male psychological development.
Recommended“On the other hand, [snorts] I had the privilege of being and many of your uh listeners are too young for this, but uh there was a great guy, Robert Bllye. uh he wrote Iron John and he was a great book.”
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Outlive
Outlive by Peter Attia and Bill Gifford is a comprehensive health and longevity guide focused on practical steps to improve vitality, manage biological markers, and extend lifespan through proactive medicine.
Recommended“First of all, for those who haven't, please read Peter's book, Outlive. It's great.”
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Violence
Violence by James Gilligan is a profound academic and psychological examination into the root causes, behaviors, and societal patterns of violent acts.
Recommended“I'm a big fan of Jim Gilligan's book, Violence. It's not an easy read.”
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Us
Discussed“and the book us is a critique of what i call the toxic culture of individualism mine”
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Books by Terry Real
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How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women
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I don't want to talk about it
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The New Rules of Marriage
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Us
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Baby Bomb
Appearances
Other mentions (4: passing, ad reads, own books)
“Look, I I did a whole book, audio book. I called it fierce intimacy. Lean in and deal with each other. Most people don't.”
“And I wrote about male depression back in the 90s. um what I said is the way we quote turn boys into men is through disconnection.”
“and we turn to what I call a misery stabilizer to make our loneliness tolerable to ourselves but it just makes it I said in my first book I don't want to talk about it uh taking a substance for loneliness is like drinking salt water for thirst it makes you worse than you started”
“I like I don't want to talk about it, the old book, and I like Fierce Intimacy. Those I like all three of those.”