Book · 2006 · Man-woman relationships
Mating in Captivity
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel has been mentioned in 5 episodes across 5 podcasts (2 episodes recommend it and 3 episodes discuss it), through . Most frequently brought up by Dr John Delony (1 episode), Logan Ury (1 episode) and Jay Shetty (1 episode) on Modern Wisdom (1 episode), My First Million (1 episode) and On Purpose with Jay Shetty (1 episode).
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Esther Perel is one of the goats here. And her book Mating in Captivity has changed a lot of people's lives.
Questions about Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
Who recommends Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel on podcasts?
Dr John Delony (1 episode) and Logan Ury (1 episode) have recommended Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel on podcasts. In all, 5 people brought it up across 5 podcasts (2 people recommended it).
Which podcasts mention Mating in Captivity the most?
Modern Wisdom (1 episode), My First Million (1 episode), On Purpose with Jay Shetty (1 episode), The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett (1 episode) and The Dr. John Delony Show (1 episode).
Is Mating in Captivity recommended, or only discussed?
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel was recommended in 2 episodes and discussed without a recommendation in 3 episodes, as of 2026-05-04.
What do people say about Mating in Captivity?
Logan Ury on My First Million (2025-05-21): "Esther Perel is one of the goats here. And her book Mating in Captivity has changed a lot of people's lives."
When was Mating in Captivity last mentioned on a podcast?
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel was last discussed on On Purpose with Jay Shetty by Jay Shetty on 2026-05-04.
What they say about it
- Transforming lives and relationships“changed a lot of people's lives”2
The best things said about it
Mating in captivity but esther perel is a is an excellent book on relationships just talking about how relationships are shifting underneath us.
It's a truly an iconic book, transforming millions and millions of lives and will continue to do.
Jay Shetty On Purpose with Jay Shetty · May 2026 Why did you write this book Mating in Captivity? You could have written about anything but for some reason you felt compelled enough to take on this subject of unlocking erotic intelligence.
Esther Perel has obviously written great books about this she talks about the difference between love and desire.
Where and when it comes up
Most episodes, by podcast
5 people who brought it up
Why people recommend it
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel is a popular psychology book exploring the complexities of maintaining desire and erotic intelligence in long-term relationships. On My First Million, Logan Ury recommended the title as an impactful read, noting that Esther Perel is among the best in the field and that the work has transformed many lives. On The Dr. John Delony Show, Dr. John Delony similarly recommended it as an excellent relationship resource that examines how interpersonal dynamics shift over time. On On Purpose with Jay Shetty, Jay Shetty praised the volume as iconic and transformative while marking its twentieth anniversary with the author. On The Diary Of A CEO, Steven Bartlett asked Esther Perel what compelled her to write the book and tackle the subject of unlocking erotic intelligence. Finally, on Modern Wisdom, Matthew Hussey referenced Esther Perel's ideas from her books when discussing the psychological differences between love and desire, explaining that desire thrives in the space between two people.
Every mention
Dr John Delony mating in captivity but esther perel is a is an excellent book on relationships just talking about how rela… 1
“mating in captivity but esther perel is a is an excellent book on relationships just talking about how relationships are shifting underneath us”
Logan Ury Esther Perel is one of the goats here. And her book Mating in Captivity has changed a lot of people's lives. 1
“Esther Perel is one of the goats here. And her book Mating in Captivity has changed a lot of people's lives.”
Jay Shetty Esther, it's been it's been 20 years since you wrote Mating in Captivity. It's a truly an iconic book, tran… 1
“Esther, it's been it's been 20 years since you wrote Mating in Captivity. It's a truly an iconic book, transforming millions and millions of lives and will continue to do.”
“Esther Perel, I'm so grateful that you came back on the show today celebrating 20 years of Venting in Captivity.”
Matthew Hussey Esther perel has obviously written great books about this she talks about the difference between love and d… 1
“Esther perel has obviously written great books about this she talks about the difference between love and desire desire is love is the coming together of two people desire exists in the space between two people”
Steven Bartlett Why did you write this book mating in captivity? You could have written about anything but for some reason… 1
“Why did you write this book mating in captivity? You could have written about anything but for some reason you felt compelled enough to take on this subject of unlocking erotic intelligence.”
Other mentions (12: passing, ad reads, own books)
“Esther is a renowned psychotherapist and the mind behind the groundbreaking book Mating in Captivity.”
“Yeah, I wrote about that in Mating in Captivity that came out in 2006. That's 20 years ago. Yes.”
“She's also the author of best-selling books such as "Mating in Captivity" and "The State of Affairs."”
“that was one of the foundational ideas for mating in captivity my first book”
“and I organized it when I was actually writing mating my first book meting in captivity at at the time”
“so mating in captivity for me was really a conversation on that very question that you just asked”
“This, the, the, not to go too far in the digression, but there is scientific literature that says danger and arousal are connected. I mean, Esther Pearl had a whole book on it called mating in captivity.”
“I think that all of us, you know, I mean this is one of there are many many frameworks around childhood, but the one that I wrote about in mating in captivity was to say that we all need security and we all also need adventure or change or freedom.”
“Her international bestseller, Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, became a global phenomenon translated into 25 languages.”
“Now, you know, I've written Mating in Captivity to say that fire needs air.”
“...and the author of Mating in Captivity, uh New York Times best-selling author.”
“if you haven't read my books mating in captivity or the state of affairs you may actually recognize my voice from my podcast”