Why people recommend it
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel is a bestselling relationship guide that investigates the paradoxical challenge of sustaining erotic desire within committed, long-term partnerships. On the Huberman Lab episode dedicated to healthy romantic relationships, the host introduced Esther Perel by highlighting her work as the author of this seminal book. Similarly, on Modern Wisdom, guest Matthew Hussey referenced Perel's ideas when discussing the components of attraction, noting her insights into the vital difference between love and desire, where love brings people together while desire thrives in the space between two individuals. People recommend this book because it tackles a very common modern dilemma with nuance, honesty, and psychological depth. Perel brilliantly explains how the domestic safety necessary for raising a family often suffocates the mystery and unpredictability required for passion, guiding couples on how to bridge the gap between being good partners and passionate lovers.
Who recommended it
- Steven Bartlett Discussed
- Matthew Hussey Discussed
Steven Bartlett — 1 mention
“Why did you write this book mating in captivity? You could have written about anything but for some reason you felt compelled enough to take on this subject of unlocking erotic intelligence.”
Matthew Hussey — 1 mention
“Esther perel has obviously written great books about this she talks about the difference between love and desire desire is love is the coming together of two people desire exists in the space between two people”
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Other mentions (4: passing, ad reads, own books)
“Yeah, I wrote about that in Mating in Captivity that came out in 2006. That's 20 years ago. Yes.”
“She's also the author of best-selling books such as "Mating in Captivity" and "The State of Affairs."”
“that was one of the foundational ideas for mating in captivity my first book”
“I think that all of us, you know, I mean this is one of there are many many frameworks around childhood, but the one that I wrote about in mating in captivity was to say that we all need security and we all also need adventure or change or freedom.”