Book · 2016 · Self-actualization (Psychology)
It Didn't Start with You
how inherited family trauma shapes who we are and how to end the cycle
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There's one book as well that really stands out it's called it didn't start with you and it's by Mark Wallen and it talks about how trauma sort of moves forward through generations and it uses Holocaust and Holocaust Survivors as an example.
What they say about it
- Explains generational trauma“how trauma sort of moves forward through generations”3
- Calls it a favorite“I love that book”2
The best things said about it
There's a book I love called It Didn't Start with You.
Daniel Amen The Tucker Carlson Show · Nov 2025 I read a book called It Didn't Start with You and it talks about how these things are passed on generationally from like trauma.
It's called It Didn't Start with You: How an Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle.
It's great book. Amazing. I love that book.
Daniel Amen On Purpose with Jay Shetty · Sep 2022 It talks about how these things are passed on generationally from like trauma your grandparents' head is passed on to you through your DNA.
Where and when it comes up
Most mentions, by podcast
4 people who brought it up
Why people recommend it
It Didn't Start with You by Mark Wolynn is a psychological exploration of how inherited family trauma and unresolved ancestral pain shape our lives and how individuals can break these generational cycles. On The Tucker Carlson Show, Dr. Daniel Amen recommended the book when discussing the mechanisms through which trauma gets passed down through generations. Andréa Motenko similarly recommended the title on ChooseFI during the hot seat segment, explaining that the book details how trauma moves forward across generations and citing Holocaust survivors as a primary example. Kevin Ross discussed reading the book on The Joe Rogan Experience, noting how astonishing it is to learn that experiences and trauma from grandparents can be passed down directly through DNA. Concepción de León discussed the work on The Book Review podcast, describing how Wolynn's text addresses inherited family trauma and outlines paths to ending the cycle. Furthermore, Dr. Daniel Amen returned to praise the book during an appearance on On Purpose with Jay Shetty, where both he and Jay Shetty agreed that it is an amazing read that sheds light on how thoughts and trauma become embedded in our genetic code. Across these various programs, podcast guests and hosts emphasized the profound impact of understanding generational patterns for personal healing.
Every mention
Daniel Amen There's a book I love called It Didn't Start with You. 2
“There's a book I love called It Didn't Start with You.”
“I don't know if you've ever read read the book, It Didn't Start With You. Yes, of course. Yeah, it's great book. Amazing. I love that book.”
Kevin Ross What's even crazier about that as I read a book called it didn't start with you and it talks about how thes… 2
“What's even crazier about that as I read a book called it didn't start with you and it talks about how these things are passed on generationally from like trauma”
“what's even crazier about that as I read a book called it didn't start with you and it talks about how these things are passed on generationally from like trauma your grandparents head is passed on to you through your DNA”
Andréa Motenko there's one book as well that really stands out it's called it didn't start with you and it's by Mark Walle… 1
“there's one book as well that really stands out it's called it didn't start with you and it's by Mark Wallen and it talks about how trauma sort of moves forward through generations and it uses Holocaust and Holocaust Survivors as an example”
Concepción De León um this one is very different it's it's called it didn't start with you how an inherited family trauma shap… 1
“um this one is very different it's it's called it didn't start with you how an inherited family trauma shapes who we are and how to end the cycle”
