Episode · Modern Wisdom · 2025-01-02

Chris Williamson & Nick Pollard: books mentioned on Modern Wisdom #884

How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser - Nick Pollard - #884

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Nick Pollard, “The People Displeaser,” is a coach and a speaker. Why do we feel so compelled to put others ahead of ourselves?

Nick Pollard recommended Psycho-cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz, Not Nice by Aziz Gazipura, The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson, Atomic Habits by James Clear, and The Sirens of Titan by Kurt Vonnegut and others, and discussed No More Mr Nice Guy by Dr Robert A Glover and Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut.

Books mentioned, in the order they came up

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1. 

   No More Mr Nice Guy

   Dr Robert A Glover · at 33:02 · mentioned 4 times

   Dr Robert A Glover's book No More Mr Nice Guy is a prominent self-help resource addressing the psychological patterns and challenges faced by men who struggle with people-pleasing and indirect communication.

   Discussed

   “you know when I look into that genre you're going to find that Dr Glover and I you know Robert Glover um function in the same realm is you know the male version of a people polier was a nice guy”

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2. 

   Psycho-cybernetics

   Maxwell Maltz · at 51:20

   Psycho-cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz is a classic self-improvement book that explores internal self-image and behavioral patterns through the lens of servo-mechanisms.

   Recommended

   “and it I think that's Maxwell maltz is is probably was one of the first real books that I ever engag it's called psycho cybernetics I don't know if you ever read that one”

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3. 

   Not Nice

   Aziz Gazipura · at 1:59:52 · mentioned 2 times

   Not Nice by Aziz Gazipura is a self-help guide designed to help individuals break free from people-pleasing behaviors and assert their own boundaries.

   Recommended

   “first one is um not nice by aiz gaspari um that was really the I think that was the first book I ever read that really addressed this kind of people pleasing behavior”

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4. 

   The Road Less Traveled

   M. Scott Peck · at 2:00:32 · mentioned 2 times

   The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck is a landmark personal growth and mental health book that challenges readers to embrace life's difficulties rather than make excuses.

   Recommended

   “it was one of the number one selling personal growth books of all time which is the The Road Less Traveled um really a direct punch in the face for making excuses”

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5. 

   The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

   Mark Manson · at 2:00:53

   The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson is a popular self-help guide that uses blunt counterintuitive wisdom to help readers prioritize what truly matters in life.

   Recommended

   “and you know some of the other greats of course Mark Manson did a marvelous job with you on subtle art”

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6. 

   Atomic Habits

   James Clear · at 2:01:00

   Atomic Habits by James Clear is a bestselling guide on habit formation that outlines how small daily actions and identity shifts can create lasting personal and professional change.

   Recommended

   “and um you know Atomic abic you know obviously James clear and Tim Ferris and all those guys”

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7. 

   Slaughterhouse-Five

   Kurt Vonnegut · at 2:01:34

   Kurt Vonnegut's Slaughterhouse-Five is a semi-autobiographical novel that follows Billy Pilgrim as he becomes unstuck in time while surviving the devastating Allied firebombing of Dresden during World War II.

   Discussed

   “um slaughterhouse 5 is probably the one that everybody says”

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8. 

   The Sirens of Titan

   Kurt Vonnegut; William Teason; Richard M. Powers · at 2:01:34 · mentioned 2 times

   The Sirens of Titan by Kurt Vonnegut is a satirical science fiction novel that explores free will, the meaning of human history, and the absurdities of the universe through an interplanetary journey.

   Recommended

   “um slaughterhouse 5 is probably the one that everybody says but Sirens of Titans is my favorite”

   Nick Pollard How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser - Nick Pollard - #884 2025-01-02 Listen at 2:01:34

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