Book · 2017 · Interpersonal relations

The all-or-nothing marriage

by Eli J. Finkel · Recommended by 6 people on 4 podcasts

Why people recommend it

The All-or-Nothing Marriage by Eli J. Finkel is a social psychology book that examines how the historical expectations and cultural functions of marriage have evolved over time. Paul C. Brunson recommended the work on The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett, pointing to research showing that a minority of modern couples achieve higher marital satisfaction than ever before. William Costello also recommended the book on Modern Wisdom to explain the growing psychological pressures placed on modern spouses to fulfill multiple roles, while Daniel Pink recommended it on On Purpose with Jay Shetty when discussing the shifting social psychology of romantic partnerships. Sonja Lyubomirsky referenced the text on Modern Wisdom to critique the false belief that a single partner must fulfill all of an individual's needs. Louise Perry and other commentators on Honestly with Bari Weiss and Modern Wisdom further discussed how the book illustrates contemporary expectations of marriage, high psychological strain, and the historical pragmatic phases of relationships.

Who recommended it

Louise Perry — 2 mentions
Discussed
“there's this um uh Eli fle wrote this book called The All or Nothing marriage some years ago”
Discussed
“there's this book called the um the All or Nothing marriage which is about sort of yes this modern conception of marriage where where exactly this you put so much expectation on your spouse that they will be you know you will be perfectly sexually compatible perfectly like conversationally compatible per you know everything everything is perfect”
Sonja Lyubomirsky — 1 mention
Discussed
“So like Eli Finkele's book, The All or Nothing Marriage, right?”
Paul C. Brunson — 1 mention
Recommended
“there's a small percentage of us and I'll go to Eli fle research who wrote phenomenal books but one is called the All or Nothing marriage that I love and in it he states that if you look at marriages committed relationships that 20% of us have higher satisfaction than we ever have in the history of relationships”
Paul Brunson — 1 mention
Discussed
“Eli finle is a great researcher out of New York and he wrote one of my favorite books the all Oro marriage and he calls that entire phase the pragmatic phase”
William Costello — 1 mention
Recommended
“there's a really good book um by eli finkel called the all or nothing marriage and it talks about how we put more and more”
Daniel Pink — 1 mention
Recommended
“i can recommend a book that is um well one of the leading scholars of of of marriage um really the social psychology of marriage is is that northwestern his name is eli finkel uh he wrote a very good book called the all or nothing marriage about how marriage has about how marriage has changed”
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“there's this um uh Eli finle wrote this book called The All or Nothing marriage some years ago”

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