Book · 2017 · Interpersonal relations
The all-or-nothing marriage
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If you look at marriages committed relationships that 20% of us have higher satisfaction than we ever have in the history of relationships.
Questions about The all-or-nothing marriage by Eli J. Finkel
Who recommends The all-or-nothing marriage by Eli J. Finkel on podcasts?
Paul Brunson (2 episodes), Arthur Brooks (1 episode), Daniel Pink (1 episode), Esther Perel (1 episode) and Logan Yuri (1 episode) have recommended The all-or-nothing marriage by Eli J. Finkel on podcasts. In all, 8 people brought it up across 5 podcasts (6 people recommended it).
Which podcasts mention The all-or-nothing marriage the most?
On Purpose with Jay Shetty (4 episodes), Modern Wisdom (3 episodes), Honestly with Bari Weiss (2 episodes), The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett (2 episodes) and The Dr. John Delony Show (1 episode).
Is The all-or-nothing marriage recommended, or only discussed?
The all-or-nothing marriage by Eli J. Finkel was recommended in 8 episodes and discussed without a recommendation in 4 episodes, as of 2026-06-25.
What do people say about The all-or-nothing marriage?
Paul Brunson on The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett (2025-01-30): "If you look at marriages committed relationships that 20% of us have higher satisfaction than we ever have in the history of relationships."
When was The all-or-nothing marriage last mentioned on a podcast?
The all-or-nothing marriage by Eli J. Finkel was last discussed on Modern Wisdom by Sonja Lyubomirsky on 2026-06-25.
What they say about it
- Identifies author as leading researcher“leading scholars of marriage”3
- Discusses how marriage has changed“how marriage has changed”2
The best things said about it
He talks about really what creates a sense of aliveness in relationships and one of the things he highlights is the importance of doing new things.
Esther Perel On Purpose with Jay Shetty · Jan 2024 I can recommend a book that is um well one of the leading scholars of of of marriage um really the social psychology of marriage is is that northwestern his name is eli finkel uh he wrote a very good book called the all or nothing marriage about how marriage has about how marriage has changed.
There's this book called the um the All or Nothing marriage which is about sort of yes this modern conception of marriage where where exactly this you put so much expectation on your spouse that they will be you know you will be perfectly sexually compatible perfectly like conversationally compatible per you know everything everything is perfect.
Louise Perry Modern Wisdom · Dec 2023 Eli finle is a great researcher out of New York and he wrote one of my favorite books the all Oro marriage and he calls that entire phase the pragmatic phase.
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Why people recommend it
The All-or-Nothing Marriage is a social psychology book by Eli J. Finkel that explores how the historical expectations placed on marital partners have dramatically evolved over time. Several prominent relationship experts and podcast hosts have enthusiastically recommended the book. Logan Yuri brought up Finkel's work on On Purpose with Jay Shetty to discuss how couples can navigate difficult phases in their relationships. Arthur Brooks recommended the book on The Dr. John Delony Show while emphasizing that romantic partnerships require continuous effort beyond mere emotional reliance. Paul Brunson cited Finkel's research on On Purpose with Jay Shetty, noting data that indicates a subset of modern committed couples experience higher relationship satisfaction than ever before. Esther Perel mentioned the book on the same podcast to highlight the importance of novelty and maintaining a sense of aliveness in partnerships. William Costello recommended the text on Modern Wisdom to explain the mounting pressures modern spouses face to fulfill multiple roles. Additionally, Daniel Pink and Jay Shetty both praised the book for illustrating how the fundamental nature of marriage has changed. Sonja Lyubomirsky also referenced the work on Modern Wisdom to critique the unrealistic cultural belief that a single partner must fulfill every emotional need.
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Paul Brunson Eli finle is a great researcher out of New York and he wrote one of my favorite books the all Oro marriage… 2
“there's a small percentage of us and I'll go to Eli fle research who wrote phenomenal books but one is called the All or Nothing marriage that I love and in it he states that if you look at marriages committed relationships that 20% of us have higher satisfaction than we ever have in the history of relationships”
“Eli finle is a great researcher out of New York and he wrote one of my favorite books the all Oro marriage and he calls that entire phase the pragmatic phase”
Arthur Brooks And so Eli Finkel wrote The All or Nothing Marriage, right? and uh his stuff is great. 1
“And so Eli Finkel wrote The All or Nothing Marriage, right? and uh his stuff is great.”
Daniel Pink i can recommend a book that is um well one of the leading scholars of of of marriage um really the social p… 1
“i can recommend a book that is um well one of the leading scholars of of of marriage um really the social psychology of marriage is is that northwestern his name is eli finkel uh he wrote a very good book called the all or nothing marriage about how marriage has about how marriage has changed”
Esther Perel there's a beautiful book by Eli fle the All or Nothing marriage and he talks about really what creates a se… 1
“there's a beautiful book by Eli fle the All or Nothing marriage and he talks about really what creates a sense of aliveness in relationships and one of the things he highlights is the importance of doing new things”
Logan Yuri One of my mentors, Eli Finkele, he has this great book called The All or Nothing Marriage. And he talks abo… 1
“One of my mentors, Eli Finkele, he has this great book called The All or Nothing Marriage. And he talks about different times in a relationship.”
William Costello there's a really good book um by eli finkel called the all or nothing marriage and it talks about how we pu… 1
“there's a really good book um by eli finkel called the all or nothing marriage and it talks about how we put more and more”
Louise Perry there's this um uh Eli fle wrote this book called The All or Nothing marriage some years ago 2
“there's this um uh Eli fle wrote this book called The All or Nothing marriage some years ago”
“there's this book called the um the All or Nothing marriage which is about sort of yes this modern conception of marriage where where exactly this you put so much expectation on your spouse that they will be you know you will be perfectly sexually compatible perfectly like conversationally compatible per you know everything everything is perfect”
Sonja Lyubomirsky So like Eli Finkele's book, The All or Nothing Marriage, right? 1
“So like Eli Finkele's book, The All or Nothing Marriage, right?”
Mentioned on the show without a named speaker2
“there's this um uh Eli finle wrote this book called The All or Nothing marriage some years ago”
“he wrote a very good book called the all or nothing marriage about how marriage has about how marriage has changed”