Episode · Modern Wisdom · 2025-01-02
Books mentioned on How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser - Nick Pollard - #884
Nick Pollard, “The People Displeaser,” is a coach and a speaker. Why do we feel so compelled to put others ahead of ourselves?
Books mentioned, in the order they came up
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No More Mr Nice Guy
No More Mr Nice Guy by Dr Robert A Glover is a self-help book designed to help recovering people-pleasers overcome the syndrome of trying to please everyone at the expense of their own well-being.
Discussed“you know when I look into that genre you're going to find that Dr Glover and I you know Robert Glover um function in the same realm is you know the male version of a people polier was a nice guy”
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Psycho-cybernetics
Psycho-cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz is a classic self-help and psychology book that explores how the human mind functions like a servo-mechanism to achieve goals and shape personal reality.
Recommended“and it I think that's Maxwell maltz is is probably was one of the first real books that I ever engag it's called psycho cybernetics”
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Not Nice
Not Nice by Aziz Gazipura is a self-help guide designed to help individuals break free from people-pleasing behaviors and assert their own boundaries.
Recommended“first one is um not nice by aiz gaspari um that was really the I think that was the first book I ever read that really addressed this kind of people pleasing behavior”
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The Road Less Traveled
The Road Less Traveled by M.
Recommended“it was one of the number one selling personal growth books of all time which is the The Road Less Traveled um really a direct punch in the face for making excuses”
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Slaughterhouse-Five
Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut is a classic anti-war novel that blends science fiction with the author's real-life experiences as an American prisoner of war during the firebombing of Dresden.
Discussed“um slaughterhouse 5 is probably the one that everybody says but Sirens of Titans is my favorite”
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The Sirens of Titan
The Sirens of Titan by Kurt Vonnegut is a satirical science fiction novel exploring free will, the meaning of life, and cosmic manipulation through a sweeping interplanetary narrative.
Recommended“um slaughterhouse 5 is probably the one that everybody says but Sirens of Titans is my favorite”
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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson is a counterintuitive guide to living a good life by prioritizing only what truly matters rather than chasing superficial positivity.
Recommended“Other greats like Mark Manson did an amazing job with 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck,' and Tim Ferriss has a place in that realm too. Those are probably my top three: 'Not Nice' by Gaspar, Glover's 'No More Mr. Nice Guy,' and Scott Peck’s 'The Road Less Traveled.' The last one, I believe, is no longer with”
Other mentions in this episode (2) — ad reads, self-promotion and passing references, never counted
“and you know some of the other greats of course Mark Manson did a marvelous job with you know subtle art”
“and um you know Atomic abic you know obviously James clear and Tim Ferris and all those guys”