The Art of Gathering
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- Episode: 199. What Makes a Good Gathering? | No Stupid Questions
Podcast: No Stupid QuestionsI was recently reading an amazing book called The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker.
- Episode: 199. What Makes a Good Gathering? | No Stupid Questions
Podcast: No Stupid QuestionsThis was so different; he pulls out a wrinkled old copy of Priya Parker's book The Art of Gathering and he said, "I've given more copies of this book away than any other book, and here's my copy.
- Episode: 199. What Makes a Good Gathering? | No Stupid Questions
Podcast: No Stupid QuestionsWhen I was reading Parker's book, I thought, "Wow, we maybe inadvertently followed a lot of the principles that allowed us to sustain this."
- Episode: 199. What Makes a Good Gathering? | No Stupid Questions
Podcast: No Stupid QuestionsNow that goes to one of the principles that Priya Parker talks about, which I think is pretty uncomfortable for a lot of people, and that's this idea of exclusivity.
- Episode: 199. What Makes a Good Gathering? | No Stupid Questions
Podcast: No Stupid QuestionsBut one of the most uncomfortable situations that Priya Parker brings up in her book is there's a group of friends that used to get together like once a year for a weekend, and one year one member of the group, who was in the military, only had the same weekend that he could get together with his girlfriend.
- Episode: 199. What Makes a Good Gathering? | No Stupid Questions
Podcast: No Stupid QuestionsNow, back to Mike and Angela's conversation about gatherings on this topic of rules that we're talking about right now: Priya Parker gave a TED Talk in 2019, and one of the things she talked about were popup rules.
- Episode: 199. What Makes a Good Gathering? | No Stupid Questions
Podcast: No Stupid QuestionsAnd to your point, Parker talks in the book about this interesting concept that some people in a group dinner may want to leave earlier and some may want to stay later, and so long as the host is okay with either one of those things, one of the things she recommends is at some point— let's say after an hour, you've eaten the dinner—then it's okay; now we're going to leave the kitchen and move into the living room.
- Episode: 199. What Makes a Good Gathering? | No Stupid Questions
Podcast: No Stupid QuestionsOkay, I don't know who said this for all— I know Priya Parker said this—but I remember it really well, and I am not the first to say it: it was advice on dinner parties, and it was like no more than six, no fewer than five!
- Episode: 199. What Makes a Good Gathering? | No Stupid Questions
Podcast: No Stupid QuestionsI actually agree with all of this; obviously, I'm passionate about Parker's book; I think it's really valuable, and I've loved everything!
- Episode: 199. What Makes a Good Gathering? | No Stupid Questions
Podcast: No Stupid QuestionsOkay, I have not yet read The Art of Gathering, but if I take the art in the title seriously, maybe your friend, and maybe Priya Parker herself, the oracle, maybe they are like the Leonardo da Vinci, so they have taken this art of gathering to its highest apogee!
- Episode: 199. What Makes a Good Gathering? | No Stupid Questions
Podcast: No Stupid QuestionsSo you know, if The Art of Gathering really is an art, some of us are going to be really far down the path, and they're amazing!