Book · 2026 · Psychology
Revealing
The Underrated Power of Oversharing
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There's tests and quadrants and how do I know whether to disclose this or what happens if we miss fire and the other person doesn't share or like what happens if they don't pass the torch? There's a lot in the book that's practical.
What they say about it
- Discusses title and interpretations“The title kind of sounds”2
The best things said about it
You can't just roll in and be like, what's up, everybody?
It's really super clunky, which is funny because you would think the stuff from your book, the vulnerability, the sharing, the rapport.
I've had situations like this, which I, as you know, I talk about in the book where I maybe made an edgy joke and people cringed and that sucked.
The title kind of sounds like an argument for blurting out everything.
It is could be off-putting because it could be interpreted as you should say anything.
Why people recommend it
Revealing by Leslie John examines the underrated power of oversharing and how strategic vulnerability can foster deeper human connection. Leslie John appeared on The Jordan Harbinger Show in October 2026 to discuss the practical frameworks detailed in her book, which include tests and quadrants designed to help individuals navigate disclosure and gauge reciprocity. Jordan Harbinger recommended the book to listeners, noting that successful vulnerability requires careful calibration rather than indiscriminate blurting. Throughout the episode, Harbinger and John explored various anecdotes, including the opening story of a couple named John and Grace whose relationship was shaped by authentic sharing. John also shared insights from her research on childhood emotional expressivity, noting distinct behavioral patterns in young boys, and reflected on personal anecdotes where awkward disclosures or edgy jokes initially caused discomfort but ultimately paved the way for lasting mentorships and close relationships. Harbinger highlighted the book's clever counterintuitive premise, observing that while the title might initially suggest an argument for reckless transparency, the actual text provides sophisticated guidance on building rapport, reading social cues, and leveraging personal disclosure safely and effectively. The episode concluded with strong endorsements for the book's actionable advice on interpersonal communication, vulnerability, and professional networking in daily life.
Every mention
Leslie John There's tests and quadrants and how do I know whether to disclose this or what happens if we miss fire and… 4
“Like I interviewed them for the book and they just exude love, as cheesy as that is to say. And it's interesting listening to them. I was asking like, but why didn't you say the thing when you were in your 20s?”
“I have two little boys and one of the things that really struck me in the research I did for the book was this finding, it's a finding where they studied basically expressivity in children.”
“I've had situations like this, which I, as you know, I talk about in the book where I maybe made an edgy joke and people cringed and that sucked. But looking back at the episode, I'm like, well, two of the guys there became some of my closest mentors.”
“There's tests and quadrants and how do I know whether to disclose this or what happens if we miss fire and the other person doesn't share or like what happens if they don't pass the torch? There's a lot in the book that's practical.”
Jordan Harbinger And this is, to your points in the book, you can't just roll in and be like, what's up, everybody? 6
“And this is, to your points in the book, you can't just roll in and be like, what's up, everybody?”
“And it's really super clunky, which is funny because you would think the stuff from your book, the vulnerability, the sharing, the rapport.”
“So the start of the book, take us to the airport at the start of the book. You have John and Grace. Oh, yeah. And bear in mind, people have not read this yet because they're going to rush out and buy it, but only after they hear us talking.”
“The title of the book, Revealing the Underrated Power of Oversharing, links in show notes, yada yada. Thanks for supporting the show. The title kind of sounds like an argument for blurting out everything.”
“I love that you raise the point about how the book's titled The Underrated Power of Oversharing. It is could be off-putting because it could be interpreted as you should say anything.”
“I'm a TA who's one year in, I can't do the same thing. And that's largely true, but it doesn't mean it's completely off limits. And your book talks about that quite a bit.”
Other mentions (1: passing, ad reads, own books)
“This week, we had Dr. Leslie John, author of Revealing, the Underrated Power of Oversharing. We talked about the science of self-disclosure, how it brings us closer, when to disclose, when not to disclose, and how to do it tactfully”